I was enjoying my bestie’s son’s birthday bash. Children were having a lot of fun. Lots of music, dance, amazing food & a brilliant 3D cake! I was super proud of her. One of the kids came over and very sweetly said “Thank You for the party Aunty, I need to leave”. And in a sweeter voice she added “So, where can I collect my return gift??”. I am standing there, totally stoked – a rush of billion emotions speeding that fleeting second.
However, what surprised me was that my friend didn’t flinch at this?!!?? She very sweetly handed over a beautifully packed gift with her name written on it. The kid took the gift and the next instant reaction was to size it up and guess what might be in there…
My friend looked at my flabbergasted reaction. She calmly said, “I don’t like it too.. Wait until you have kids, darling!”. (Well, this was before Ananya was born!)
And I did just that. My birthday parties were homely affairs with a cake from the local bakery, a new dress, musical chairs and home baked food.
Don’t get me wrong. I am totally for innovation & new ways of celebration. The traditions & the exuberance of celebrations might change. But values still remain rooted.
“But hey….Wait until you have kids, darling!”
This trend seems to have gotten amplified by the human need to conform to social strata & it’s practices. The click of a button share has transformed this into a mega necessity.
It may have started with SAY THANK YOU WITH A GIFT. However, it has gotten skewed along a generation. Now it seems, there is NO THANK YOU.. WITHOUT GIFTS!
This conversation brought a certain weariness in their eyes – tired of finding the perfect return gift & the need to keep up appearances amongst mom circles.
Whaatt??? Do you see a problem here? Or is it just me!! And of course, it ended with, “.. Wait until you have kids, darling!”.
And it doesn’t matter how small or how exclusive or how luxurious the gift is. Nobody has the right to judge that!
However the point is, don’t do it because YOU HAVE TO.. Do it Because YOU WANT TO!
And that friend or mom who Unfriends or thinks lesser of you because of this.. You and your kid never needed them!
When I WANT to, I do gift them & spoil them silly.. sometimes even for no reason or occasion!
“So yea darling. Now I have a Kid & a Blog.. And Gifts from Me Would Be Only if I WANT To”
Stay Scrumdiddlyumptiously Awesome!6